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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Pam, you are right.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=2>That spot is your special place created for your special pup.
How dare your mother "insist" you disturb it for her dog.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=2>Even if the dogs had been best friends (in which case you
MIGHT have offered) she would be wrong to even ask, let alone
insist.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=2>From the little you've said it appears your mother is a bully.
Sorry, I know she's your mum, and if I've misread your words I
apologise.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=2>However much you love your mum, you must not allow her to push
you into doing things you don't want to do. You may be her child, but you are an
adult now - for heaven's sake, you are a grandma!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=2>Stand up to her on this (and do it now, don't wait until the
time when her sadness will make it harder for you) and you will find it easier
to stand up to her on other matters.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=2>Tell her "I'm sorry. I have been thinking about your request
to bury Mitzi with Popeye, but I'm afraid I will not disturb my boy's resting
place. How about we pick out another special spot for Mitzi and we can create
something just for him/her".</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=2>That way you show you are prepared to meet her half way. Don't
let her blackmail you emotionally. Be firm. If she wants to have a hissy, let
her.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Good luck - and I love the sound of Popeye's
spot.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Sally with Rolph and Clara, UK</FONT></DIV><pre>
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