[Dailydrool] Private Condolences

[Karen Markisenis]

Linda wrote, in part: "I suggest people consider sending the person a direct message instead of posting to the DD. The sender's address is always at the top of the message, and after all, the message is--or should be--for that person,  not intended as some public show. Private, individual emails would avoid the painful (but understandable) comment Becky recently made about losing Purple--and Becky is an icon! I always send personal messages, and almost always get personal replies--tho some people do post a public acknowledgment because of overwhelming volume. That seems a better use of Drool and mods' time. So if others may think me unsympathetic from an absence of public mourning, so be it. I am sure that the public condolences are well-meant, but would urge posters to consider sending privately instead, to direct the message where it needs to go."

I do NOT see anywhere that she said that condolences were taking up too much room of DD space, and some folks did not like them.  Nor did I see anything about the posts  necessarily "bothering her".  I don't see where, as someone suggested, that Linda was "bored" reading the condolences.  Neither did she suggest that announcement of a pet's passing not be posted.  And where did she say that she was "offended by the number of caring people expressing their sympathy"? Nor did she say that posts of condolences were a "frivolous use of Drool space in terms of excess bites being wasted on the mourning of beloved canines".   She did express concern over CBL's comment when she lost Purple.  Becky wrote: "I know this wont hit others as does the loss of the late great Elder Clara, but I have a loss to report too."

I have been a member of the DD from almost the beginning, though I seldom post now.  I almost always send a note of condolences directly to the person who is mourning the loss of a beloved pet, not to the list, as it is private.  If I know the person, I usually send a card and sometimes followup with a phone call.  I think you all need to cool off and not be so quick to flame.
Karen